http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/ Telling it like it is... Mon, 21 Mar 2016 05:45:18 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.4.2 http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-44664 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 03:52:57 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-44664 oh absolutely it’s work! It takes more time than I’d like to admit but a lot of it is done late at night when the kids are in bed. We need more hours in the day to get everything done and maybe find some ‘me’ time.
Hahaha maybe she just meant it is time to treat yourself?! ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-44662 Fri, 31 Oct 2014 03:50:24 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-44662 Oh thanks so much Winnie! Yes I agree, our kids grow up so fast and we won’t get those moments back. I’m happy to just keep going how these are at the moment. Have a wonderful day. ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-41087 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 12:29:07 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-41087 ohh man i so dont have time for that rubbish. i do consider my blog and all its extras work and i work alot, i also have three kids and i do go to the gym (stop laughing i can hear that from here!) and i have lots of things that i consider more important than hanging out with those kinda people. Coincidently i did have my bi annual haircut this week and my hairdresser did say next time she wants to do my colour…. hmm maybe she was trying to tell me something.
bugger it you dont have to socialise with people like that. lifes to short to have people who dont matter in it. xx ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-38926 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 13:32:22 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-38926 She does not sound very nice at all and this is me being polite. If I were you, I will not ever want to converse with her anymore – she has not right! Well written letter, everything well said and your hair looks just beautiful, there is no issue there that I can see and neither do you need to go to the gym right now, kiddies grow up way too fast and we will never get those moments back so it’s important that we spend as much time as we can with them so I’m totally with you on that! Chin up and smile huni you are doing a fabulous job! X ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-38886 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 11:19:22 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-38886 Yes well I thought it best to be dignified considering we were at school. haha. But that’s not to say a million things didn’t go through my head before biting my tongue (near in half). Thanks so much for taking the time to comment Mandy. xx ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-38884 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 11:16:29 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-38884 EXACTLY! It took me a long time to feel good/comfortable about my appearance after having kids and no one is taking that away from me. We judge ourselves enough, we don’t need others doing it too. ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-38880 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 11:12:40 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-38880 What a great way to look at it Lizzy. I know it’s human nature to judge but sometimes people need to keep their opinions to themselves, especially when they are only doing it to make people feel less worthy. ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-38879 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 11:07:59 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-38879 I haven’t read Brene Brown’s books before but it sounds like it would be a great read. It has taken me 7 years (since the birth of my first child) to feel comfortable and confident in my skin and I know there are many mums who struggle with this exact lack of self esteem. This letter wasn’t so much about responding but more about letting other mums know they aren’t alone, that it is ok they have different priorities to other mums and that regardless what anyone says, they are fine.
Thanks so much for stopping by Sharon. xx ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-37047 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:28:08 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-37047 Have you read any of Brené Brown’s books? She is a shame researcher and her books have completely changed the way I think. This is what she says about judgment, “We judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance. We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.” If another Mum is judging you then it is because deep down inside she is struggling with shame. How very sad! My question is.. why do you feel the need to respond? Mama you are doing fine and you have no need to defend your choices. Thinking about her snarky comments it is a waste of brain space. You are enough just as you are. Thanks for linking up with Mummy Mondays #Team MM ]]> http://allmumsaid.com.au/an-open-letter-to-that-judging-mum/#comment-36701 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 08:45:39 +0000 http://allmumsaid.com.au/?p=5299#comment-36701 Grrr what a nasty piece of work she is. I hate passive aggressive people who slot bitchy comments into a conversation when no-one else is listening. Make sure you never tell her anything personal ever again! I’ve been saying for months that I want to join the gym too but Ive decided I feel that my daughter is still too little to be in the creche. Yes, Ive met judging mums before and been hurt. I try to rationalise their comments by reminding myself that the things that come out of their mouths are more about them than they are about me. Xx ]]>