As mentioned in the editorial last week ‘Sexy Time’ when I shared with you a man’s perspective on the very sensitive subject of premature ejaculation I will be sharing a woman’s point of view on the issue, well actually 2 women’s opinions. I would first like to say a huge thank you to both of these women (and the women who emailed me and left comments on their experiences) and also Matt*, all of whom were willing to share their thoughts and experiences with me for the purpose of these posts.

Jane* has been with her husband since she was in her early 20’s (now late 30’s) and admits that when it happened the first few times she put it down to him being an over-excited male who was obviously very eager. However as the months went on and the same thing continued to happen she began to realise that this may be a little more serious than your average enthusiasm when it came to having sex. She started to feel less like a lover and more like a housemate with little to no benefits. Now this could have been the breaking point in their relationship, however Jane decided that she would discuss her concerns with her husband and together they decided that if they wanted to continue to grow as a couple they would require some advice from their GP to help overcome this problem. Since that visit there has been the occasional premature ending however overall Jane is quite satisfied with their now very healthy, active and spontaneous sex life.

 Anne* on the other hand is in a sexless relationship due to constantly feeling disappointed in the bedroom. Ryan* has shut down every attempt of Anne’s to seek help from his doctor which has unfortunately resulted in her no longer wanting to be intimate with him. She has lost that feeling of closeness and connection with Ryan as a consequence and while at first she felt guilty about it, she is now just saddened by the fact that it has had such a negative effect on their relationship.

Every person and relationship will handle this situation differently and while one person may not mind in the slightest, it could be the breaking point for another. If you suffer from premature ejaculation or know someone who does, take control and check out http://www.controlpe.com.au/ or make an appointment to see your GP for more information.

*Names have been changed to protect the privacy of those who shared their stories.

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In an attempt to bring more awareness and understanding to health issues we are required to talk about them, write about them, read up on them and most importantly share them. Often it is a topic that people don’t feel should be discussed and kept private like premature ejaculation for example, but this isn’t the case. How are we supposed to learn about it and be more understanding if the subject is taboo or simply laughed at? We all know that there are always two sides to every story and unfortunately it is often only one that we get to hear. I am going to be sharing with you both sides because each are just as important as the other. I have researched and interviewed for this series of posts so that I can provide you with a point of view from both a male and female perspective. Today I will be sharing with you a man’s standpoint on the issue.

Matt* is 36 and is in a great relationship with his girlfriend but he knows he isn’t lasting long enough to satisfy her needs. Chloe* tells him she doesn’t mind and that it’s ok but he feels like he is constantly disappointing her. He has struggled with premature ejaculation for years now and it has destroyed many relationships prior to this one. He admits that this issue has caused emotional and relationship stress in the past and is always concerned that his relationship with Chloe will result in having the same outcome. In previous relationships Matt avoided having sexual relations with his female partners due to the embarrassment that came from his inability to last longer in the bedroom. He went on to tell me that the duration can often vary from 30 seconds – 4 minutes and that he feels like he has little to no control over ejaculating when doing the deed. He wishes he could last longer and that there was more support available to him in order to work out the cause and how he can successfully overcome the issue.

While research does show that women are far less concerned about premature ejaculation than men it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t cause some female partners distress. Premature ejaculation is most common among younger men and while it generally resolves itself over time, it can also start at a later age for reasons unknown to you. If you suffer from premature ejaculation or know someone who does, take control and check out http://www.controlpe.com.au/  or make an appointment to see your GP for more information.

  Please share your thoughts and opinions in the comments below.

*Names have been changed to provide discretion to the wonderful friends and Mad Mummas readers who shared their stories with me.

This is a sponsored post but all opinions are my own.

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