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Girls Day Out With Mr 3!
As you can probably tell by the lack of posts lately that I have been absolutely run off my feet, between studying for exams, assignments, looking after the kids, keeping the house semi-organised from being a complete shambles, organising dinners, the kids’ homework, sorting out our house, our holiday, etc. I have had no time for anything ‘fun’!
I decided as K (3) and I haven’t really had time to do anything alone recently I’d forget about all the shit I ‘need’ to do and just spend time with the little guy. We got a day that D was at school and C was at work where he should beand we took advantage of it. We had the ultimate girls day (yes I realise he is a boy) but we had so much fun.
He got a haircut (he loves getting it cut and spiked up); we bought him a new pair of shoes ($15 Slazenger sneakers from Spendless Shoes or something like that. What a BARGAIN!! And to top it off we went to an actual real café for lunch.
We dined at Cino’s in East Maitland – Greenhills.
The service was fantastic, food was great and the coffee was delicious.
I ordered a big breaky – Don’t be judging me I was freaking starving! – $17.90
K got chicken nuggets and chips – $7.90 which I might add was a waste of money. K was only interested in helping me devour my meal. I did find the prices a bit high but I think that’s the chef coming out in me (I know roughly what everything costs and how much profit they would have made). However the atmosphere was good and best of all it was kid friendly. K and I talked about loads of different things and he got really excited, I just loved the look he had in his eyes.
He was having fun and so was I!
This is something I am going to have to make time to do on a regular basis with the family, whether it is all of us at once or just one on one. It was almost therapeutic to actually sit, relax and just talk (yes I am aware I was talking to a 3 year old but gee has he got some interesting stories to tell) ;p
Do you have regular dates with your husband/wife/partner? Kids?
What do you do to mix things up?
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I Miss Getting My Freak On
Lately I haven’t exactly been posting a lot of heartfelt or touching reads for you to enjoy and that has not been due to lack of content or ideas but more the fact that I have barely had time to catch my breath.
I have been so busy finalising assignments and studying for end of semester exams that everything (and I mean everything) has been put on the back burner. Sex is being traded for sleep (and that loved midnight nudge is dreaded), wine/vodka is traded for coffee (even on a Friday night) and meals are being replaced by sugar hits to keep me going. I cannot remember the last time I played at the park with the kids (to be honest I hate going to the park anyway but that’s a whole other story, the kids love it), I cannot remember the last time my husband and I went out for dinner alone or with the kids, the last time I had a proper conversation and wasn’t trying to multi task (study and keep up with the conversation) or even played artists with the kids, etc.
I feel like I haven’t ‘REALLY’ spoken nor had any in depth conversation with my husband in months or given him my undivided attention. I feel terribly bad about this as there doesn’t seem to be a happy medium at this point. It’s studying my absolute arse off and completely kind of ignore everyone else around me or fail. Neither option is favourable to me!
I have completed 2 exams and to my surprise received 100% in both!
YAY me!!
But as you can see it has come at a price, one that will be paid back 10 fold and may or may not come across as smothering when I’m finished my last exam.
On Tuesday, my last assessment for this semester will be held. It is extremely difficult and I’m not sure how I will go. I’m aiming for 50% (just so I can pass). I have paper stuck all over the walls of key points of information so that as I walk from room to room some of it may sink in. I’m not very optimistic but all I can do is try.
I am willing this study bullshit learning and mind expanding experience to be over, whose stupid idea was it for me to go back and study anyway? Oh right, it was mine.
REPEAT AFTER ME:
This will be beneficial for you in the long run!
This will bring opportunities for you when you are ready for them!
You have challenged yourself and you have succeeded!
When you complete this you can return to loving that midnight fireworks inducing romp and matinees!
(If that’s not encouragement I don’t know what is!)
Until next time, please have a stiff drink and in depth conversation for me, for yourself and most importantly go and get your freak on!!
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A few months ago I broke down. I was a spluttering mess, tears that wouldn’t stop and snot bubbles that would give the Blair Witch Project a run for its money. If it wasn’t so pathetic it would have been hilarious.
I had not long gone from being a full time stay at home mum to my boys and wanting another baby to going back to school, going back to work as a chef, building a house and having so much study to do that I barely left my desk. I hardly recognised my life anymore with so much going on. It seems I missed out on so much time with my kids. In retrospect; I wasn’t missing out that much. My eldest started school this year so he wouldn’t have been home anyway, my husband was still going to work as does and my youngest … well he is really the only one who it has had a reasonable effect. He now gets to go to childcare/preschool 2 days a week which has been a great benefit to him because he is gaining incredible social skills that he wouldn’t have gotten at home.
I however seemed overwhelmed. My life had changed so much, so quickly.
When did that happen? How did that happen? What was I thinking?
Even as I write this I’m shaking my head in disbelief. There was no logic in why I was so upset. What mum doesn’t want some time to herself? Some independence?
Normally however my idea of time to myself is getting my hair done or going out for lunch. Mind you I would settle for an empty bathroom that I can go to the toilet in peace in but as all us mums know that happens about as often as the cleaning fairy visiting for free or just plain visiting!
I don’t typically get overwhelmed or tearful. I’m tough! Or so I thought. My husband hugged me and gave me the support I needed, we talked and I cried and then I cried some more. I later came to the conclusion that I had yet again under estimated my ability. I had myself believing I couldn’t do it all.
I CAN!
I took a step back, wiped my eyes, popped those snot bubbles and got on with it. I am exceeding any possible expectation I could have dreamed of. Don’t get me wrong it isn’t easy; it is extremely hard work but since that night I have let my stress go (or as much as one can) and have taken on even more.
What else? Well…..
I also started this little blog. When I get the feeling of “please everyone just get the hell away from me and leave me alone” I start to write. I write for my blog, I write for you wonderful fans, I write for my sanity. I write for me! It is my release.
For this I am grateful.
What is your release? How do you cope with or overcome stress?
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