As I sit here listening to the sound of laughter and giggles that are erupting out of my gorgeous boys I feel a sense of pride, happiness and peacefulness. This is a very nice change to the usual yelling, fighting and high pitch squeals whines (you know the one it’s painful to the ears and migraine inducing).
When they were younger they got along so well; hugs and kisses along with big piles of toys being shared around. I had almost forgotten what it was like to not feel drained from the constant bickering between them. I’m the referee that they run to bellowing foul against the other. They scream blue murder over nothing and by the end of yet another tiresome repetitive day I feel deflated, frustrated and disappointed.
I think the disappointment may be slightly due to the fact I get a little too excited that it’s time for the kids to go to bed. I love bed time. It’s quiet; there is no yelling or having to listen to “Mum, mum, mum, mum, mum.” I think you’ll agree it’s as annoying as nails on a blackboard!
Now please don’t mistake me for a parent who doesn’t discipline, I do. In a variety of ways that differ depending on how severely they are misbehaving. On the bright side I am lucky because when we venture outside the house, anywhere but home – they are absolute angels. I am very grateful that they aren’t known as ‘those kids’. I just want them to be the perfect cherubs at home that I know they can be (when they want to be). Obviously every mother/father/caregiver wants well behaved kids 100% of the time but I’ve never seen it yet. In a way it’s like character building, for them and us. They want to see how much they can get away with push (as they will for many years to come) and we unfortunately get to see how much we can take.
The battle is constant to find a happy medium. Not too lenient but not too strict. They are still learning boundaries but know the rough borders – I’m constantly learning new limits along side them. However in this very moment my frustrations and frowns have faded away as I watch their big cheesy grins infect the atmosphere that is our home. The love they have for one another that was once so prominent is shining bright again.
Only one thing has made this moment more special, over the sound of music playing softly in the distance is hearing them whisper to each other “You’re my best friend, I love you”. My heart just melts. This is why I love being a mum, some days can suck beyond belief (we all know it is true – just no one wants to say it). But the days and moments like these is what makes all the hard work, the sweat, the tears and the dreaded nagging worth it.
Regardless what tomorrow may bring; this is what it is all about, they are the dimple to my smile!
Oh yes, some day do suck beyond belief, but the feelings of the goods days far outweigh the sucky 😛
P.S Gorgeous boys you have there!
I’m glad I’m not the only one
Thanks, they can be cute ‘sometimes’ ;p
You are definitely not the only one…some days do suck beyond belief…some days I wonder if I could put my 3 kids up for auction on ebay! All I can do is remember moments… like you so beautifully describe
hahaha its funny you should say that because I too have told them thats where they will go if they keep their crap up!
Oh, how I love bed time (or wine time, whatever!). The good tends to outweigh the bad in the end, but I can honestly say, being a Mum is the most challenging thing I have ever done – in so many ways.
I have to agree 100%. Its the best job but definately the hardest and by the end of the day bed time is my favourite time
Oh I am having one of these days myself! I have just put Master A down for an early nap coz he’s driving me bonkers and I need to catch up on some blogging. Don’t worry no one will think you don’t discipline your children, we have been in that place where you are about ready to advertise your child for giveaway online (comes with own Hi 5 DVD suckers!) but then they give us a cuddle and all is forgiven!
I hate how you can be on the brink of listing them free to home (dont care which one) hahaha and then they turn around and say sorry mummy I love you lots. The sweetness in their eyes is undescribable. Thats the bit I love when you see that you are their everything!