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The Parents Room – Should Dads Use Them?

Have you noticed that lots of people seem to be turning away from Facebook? It could be because of fears to do with privacy. It could be to do with us not seeing the content we want. And it could also be to do with the absolute shitstorm that is Facebook group comments.

Ask the question “Should dads be able to use the parents room” and you’re going to be absolutely BOMBARDED by opinions (many of which will be in all caps and feature the wonder twins of terrible grammar and godawful spelling).

It’s a hotbed of slander, accusations and outrage (which, in the cold light of day, seems to be a bit of a first world problem) but for some reason, many people seem stuck on what a parents room actually is.

Here’s a clue for you, Facebook.

IT’S FOR PARENTS.

dad holding baby in parents room

Dads should DEFINITELY be able to use the parents room

It sometimes seems that dads can’t win, doesn’t it? They’re criticised for being lazy and not helping with the kids but then, when one of them DOES want to be hands-on with their children, they’re criticised again. Some horrible accusations have been thrown at fathers who are daring to enter the parents room and it has to stop.

Yes, many mothers go into the parents room to breastfeed or bottle feed their children and they would like privacy. That is absolutely their right. Here’s the other side of that coin, though.

Where does the dad go who is out with his child when he has to change the nappy?

Where does the dad go if he has a toddler who is melting down and needs a quiet space for a few minutes?

Where does the dad go if the baby is sick all over her clothes and he needs to change her and doesn’t want to strip her down in the food court?

baby getting nappy changed

Get some perspective

We’re so lucky to have parents rooms and other great family-friendly facilities. Let’s be grateful for them instead of squabbling over them. Let’s celebrate the fact that there are a growing number of fathers out there who don’t believe that the bulk of child care should automatically be the responsibility of the mother.

Don’t accuse the fathers entering a parents room with small children of anything untoward. Don’t scream at people to leave spaces that they’re ALLOWED TO BE IN (it says ‘parents room’, not ‘mothers room’, by the way). Don’t think that YOUR right to privacy automatically trumps everyone else.

Let’s be kind. We’re all in this together, right?

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10 Comments

  1. 16/04/2018 / 6:50 am

    That’s so nuts. Yes, it’s parents – but if you haven’t picked up on that, where is the dad meant to change the nappy??? How weird.

  2. 16/04/2018 / 8:53 am

    If you are in charge of a child then you can use the parents room. Mum, dad, aunt, uncle, brother, sister, friend, babysitter… the child comes before some stupid adults opinion.

  3. 16/04/2018 / 9:43 am

    OMG, I can’t believe people would even question this. Facebook is a breeding ground for idiots who hide behind their keyboards and quite frankly, I’m getting a bit tired of it.

  4. 16/04/2018 / 11:03 am

    I feel sorry for Dads that feel uncomfortable in there. It’s for both parents to use!

  5. 16/04/2018 / 12:00 pm

    I totally agree that on many accounts dads can’t win. Having said that, I’d like to think that it’s more dramatised online than it is prominent in real life. 😊❤️

  6. 16/04/2018 / 12:36 pm

    It’s not just parents rooms either. When my husband was the stay at home dad, he encountered all sorts of discrimination for being the hands on father at playgroups and even at a vaccination clinic! I really don’t see the big deal or the problem. It’s certainly not with Dads being parents!!!

  7. 16/04/2018 / 4:41 pm

    But it’s okay for middle aged women to come in and use the toilet in a parent room or the microwave to heat up their lunch with no child in attendance? Massive side-eye.

  8. 06/08/2018 / 12:44 pm

    Absolutely agree, my husband has got the occasional dirty look upon exiting the parent room after changing our baby’s nappy. It’s just rude.

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