Things that annoy new parents. Have you broken any of these cardinal sins? Foot, please leave mouth!
Things that annoy new parents | Welcome to a whole new world of pain
Now that we’re all wise and grey (well, grey-ish) it’s easy to let the memories of early parenthood blur together like one of those cute Facebook anniversary videos. The highlights. The giggles, the cuddles, the singing. The baby sneezes. (My god, the baby sneezes).
Don’t be fooled by that, by the way. That’s a trick of nature designed to get you makin’ babies again. If we could remember in detail every painful moment, every sleepless night or every time we hid in the shower eating Peanut M&M’s, the population would cease to exist.
But now in our (relatively speaking) old age, we forget what it’s like for the noobs in the trenches. Those fresh parents with wide eyes and big hearts, ready to take on the challenges that we’ve all managed to come out the other side of. While sometimes we have the best of intentions (and sometimes we don’t) you should PROBABLY be aware of some things that annoy new parents. And when I say annoy I mean “invoke homicidal rage”.
Things that annoy new parents: The Advice Line
Here are things that new parents are probably all over and that you don’t need to tell them.
• Babies should wear a hat in the sun
• If your baby is learning to sit up it should be on a soft surface
• Babies should sleep sometimes
• Babies like it when you sing to them
They all sound very obvious, right? Not really things you should have to tell someone?
Someone in my life who suffers from a severe case of verbal diarrhoea felt the pressing need to let me know EVERYTHING, including the above hot tips. Although I’m certain she felt she was helping, in actuality it made me think that she thought I was a complete moron.
A hat in the sun. Really. Who woulda thought.
Things that annoy new parents: Back in my day
Oh, your child just napped anywhere? You let anyone hold them? You didn’t mind if people hadn’t had whooping cough shots and held your newborn? And your kid survived?
People are allowed to have their own boundaries. Discounting a new parent’s wishes by saying you’ve been there, done that and come out the other side is tantamount to saying “Nyah nyah nah nah nah” and blowing a raspberry. You don’t need to counter their comments by saying how YOU did it.
Things that annoy new parents: Gimme that baby!
Visiting new parents and meeting their baby for the first time is a really special experience. But be conscious of how you’re acting in this very new, very private space.
If you’re visiting, let them know that you’re coming. Maybe try to help with something. Don’t sit back and wait for the new mother, who is possibly still bleeding, to serve you tea and scones while you gaze at her newborn and let her know that the baby needs a hat in the sun. Fold some laundry, bring a pre-cooked meal, clean the kitchen – do something instead of baby-grab!
The sharp learning curve of being a new parent
It’s an experience that drastically changes you on an almost cellular level. Learning how to be a parent is like putting on a whole new identity – going from just looking after your own needs to being solely responsible for a new human being is a huge shift.
Be respectful of the journey that new parents are going on and be supportive instead of judgemental or condescending. Do they really need you to say that they’re never going to sleep again? Will that improve their lives or brighten their day? Choose kindness!